Purposeful parenting provides lessons for children and parents
Some of the most meaningful takeaways in life might come from lessons that don’t need to feel like work, but carry just as much intent as a traditional “lesson” might. As a parent and a family, there are lessons we can all absorb and implement as we spend more time growing together, and there are few better times to do this than the long, school-free month of July, which coincides with Purposeful Parenting month.
Here are a few ways you can establish meaningful, connective quality times for your family, focusing on strong relationships, celebrating the individual and encouraging overall emotional health.
Celebrate unique quirks about each family member
Does your son have a wild imagination and a need to share all the details about fantastical worlds that come alive in books, movies or through video games? Is your daughter a born runner with feet that won’t quit? Encourage these passions and get to know these things that make your kids tick. Understanding what they care about will help both them — and you — realize what factors influence them the most, and how to delve into their interests on a deeper level.
You never know who will be the next Olympian, spelling bee champion or Academy Award-winning director if you’re brushing past their talents and curiosities.
Delegate duties around the household
It’s hard to shoulder the needs and responsibilities of a household by yourself. If your children are of age to help out with small chores like emptying the dishwasher, feeding the pets or even just cleaning up their toys, start telling them from a young age how much it means to you and the rest of the family when they contribute in that way.
Don’t ask your children to help; tell them.
But in doing so, instill basic manners like “please” and “thank you.” Raising children to be responsible doesn’t just mean teaching them to do everything independently; it also involves teaching them that it’s OK to let others know you need help, which starts within the household.
Spend time together that doesn’t involve television
Movie nights are fun every now and then, but it’s also important to expose your children to activities that involve community, teamwork or solitude, while also teaching them about concepts bigger than themselves. Maybe it’s a family game of soccer or a board game after dinner one night, an opportunity to see their town from a bird’s eye view while on a hike, or even a trip to your local farmer’s market on a sunny morning.
Making time to do things outside of the home that don’t constitute errands is time you can spend getting to know what interests your children gravitate toward, or uncover talents they might not have discovered yet.
Establish family traditions
Family traditions give everyone something to look forward and create meaningful memories to cherish for years to come. They don’t have to be huge or elaborate, nor do they have to center around holidays or big events, although many do. It’s the meaning behind the tradition that makes it special.
A great way to start is by looking at the traditions that you already have (such as events around holidays or birthdays) and then fill from there. Perhaps you start a “back to school hike” where the whole family goes hiking the day before school starts. Or a “Christmas in July” baking day where you make Christmas or other holiday cookies. The possibilities are endless, but traditions go a long way towards bringing the family together and highlighting the importance of your spending time with each other in meaningful ways.
Remind your children that you love them
It seems such a simple thing to remind a person of, and no one wants to be known as a smothering parent, but a simple “I love you” at bedtime or before dropping the kids off at day camp goes a long way.
Individuals who feel valued are more likely to engage and feel connected to the circles they belong to, and small reminders — in conjunction with actions that emphasize your base as a family — are great ways to reinforce what they are capable of and how they can make an impact.
Source > http://www.ydr.com/story/life/wellness/blogs/no-sweat-york/2017/07/18/purposeful-parenting-provides-lessons-children-and-parents/489848001/